The average size for women in the US is 12 -14, however we continue to absorb from various media outlets that say that there is only one certain way of beauty. Media for years have been controlling what is in trend and what is beautiful. Many girls and women follow the media which causes them to have self-hate or even pushing themselves to cosmetic surgery to change the way they look. I find we always want to look like someone else instead of being happy, it is up to us to not follow in media’s trends and just love ourselves, after all you are one of a kind.
The media has been the biggest way to spread a message through out the world. For many years girls and women have had issues and insecurities with their own bodies and or the way they look due to the bad habit of comparing themselves to another. Some even push themselves to the point of starvation, depression, self hurting and more. Over the years media’s idea of beauty keeps getting more popular, leading more women and girls to feed into the idea of what people think beauty is, depending on the size of their jeans, what type of make-up they own, or if their clothes are in trend. Has anyone ever seen a commercial advertising a women on her amazing personality? I don’t think so, most of the time you see women indulging themselves in low-fat yogurt, dancing about after shaving their legs, or even strutting around in the newest Victoria secret bra and underwear to seduce men. Some models who are not the average sized woman are then edited with Photoshop giving the overall look of “perfection”. These are the women people aspire to look like, which is either unhealthy and or unrealistic when edited by a professional. The real question is, why do we pay attention? I believe it is because that’s how what we think can bring us happiness, it’s what we are exposed to from media, and society’s view of beauty. It completely surrounds you for life; from the people you surround yourself with and where you were born. Even the small things that hit us the most, like parents repeating “Do you really need to eat more of that?”, or going to your workplace or social life having to deal with people who may make you feel different. Then taking all of that in your daily life, and having constant exposure of media’s idea of beauty.
It can be very overwhelming, people usually take the images they see from the media and interpret it as happiness but realistically this is not the case. I believe true beauty is being yourself, because that is what will truly make you happy. Wanting to be someone else and are willing to risk one’s own health in the process is not my idea of happiness, it sounds more like torture to me. Finding the balance within yourself will make you such a happier person. Naturally being able to balance out your health, and inner self can lead to a happier surrounding of people and things in your life. You can never really love others until you learn to love yourself, once you do it will continue to reflect in your life.
Even celebrities, the very people who are seen as beautiful in media, wear a lot of make up, are usually photo-shopped, and work out mostly everyday with a hired professional trainer and sometimes are still insecure and frustrated about their life. Singer/actress Demi Lavato, most people know her story but for those who don’t, Demi became famous on Family Channel and Disney where she had her own show, and had about 6 albums out since 2008 to her latest album that debuted in 2011, Unbroken. Demi entered the Television world saying she will not change who she is, and media will not get to her. However, after about 2 years in the lime light Demi began to break down where she became very insecure, which lead her to self hurting and an eating disorder. So that is the sad thing, people who are seen as beautiful still have issues of their own.
So really, the want to look like someone else or the people we see in the media, seems like a really pointless, vicious and unhealthy cycle. We aspire to look like the very own people who have to same amount of insecurities as we do. So why can’t we just be happy with ourselves? Many women who are not exposed to media’s idea of beauty on a daily basis are the ones really enjoying their life. It’s the girls and women who focus on the quality of life, helping others, and aspire to be the best person they can, are the women who really experience true beauty.
Like the famous Italian-French actress, who began her life in television and beauty pageants at the very young age of 14, one of her famous quotes “Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.”- Sophie Loren